• Contact Us
  • Classifieds
  • About
  • Home

Pathway

Missouri Baptist Convention's Official News Journal

  • Missouri
    • MBC
    • Churches
    • Institutions & Agencies
    • Policy
    • Disaster Relief
  • National
    • SBC Annual Meeting
    • NAMB
    • SBC
    • Churches
    • Policy
    • Society & Culture
  • Global
    • Missions
    • Multicultural
  • Columnists
    • Wes Fowler
    • Ben Hawkins
    • Pat Lamb
    • Rhonda Rhea
    • Rob Phillips
  • Ethics
    • Life
    • Liberty
    • Family
  • Faith
    • Apologetics
    • Religions
    • Evangelism
    • Missions
    • Bible Study & Devotion
  • E-Edition

More results...

Finding peace is not about denying our feelings. It’s more about being careful not to trust them to determine our actions or responses. They need to be reined in and filtered through the truth of God.

Rhonda Rhea: I’ve got some feelings

April 4, 2018 By Rhonda Rhea

What if all our deleted selfies are actually saved up somewhere? It’s a horrifying thought. I took a selfie the other day that somehow looked like I was photobombing my own picture. Is that even a thing that can happen? Either way, I’m feeling a little uneasy thinking about where old selfies go to die.

I actually started down this line of thinking when someone took a surprise photo of me and it looked disturbingly like one of those proof-of-life photos a kidnapper would send. I was even holding a newspaper. I might add, it was the kind of photo that could make a person’s family think twice before paying the ransom.

Maybe it was the jeans I was wearing, because after seeing that photo, I realized that I have my “good” jeans, my “wear these to Wal-Mart” jeans, and my “oh so you’ve given up altogether” jeans.

I’m not sure how I feel about that.

Sometimes I’m not sure how I “feel about feelings” either. I’m not one to be emotionally driven, but I do admit I all too often let my feelings push me around. It can happen when I hit a life-snag, for instance, and it doesn’t feel like anything remotely redeemable could come out of it. Or when it doesn’t feel like God is responding—especially not the way I want. All those feelings can make it more challenging for me to lean back in peace, rest my head on my Father’s chest and trust that He’s got this.

Feelings can be such misleading little scoundrels. Sometimes they out-and-out lie. “The heart is more deceitful than anything else, and incurable—who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9, CSB) Our feelings will tell us everything is awful when it’s not. Or tell us everything is fine when it’s not. It’s almost like they can hold the truth for ransom.

Those rascally feelings? They’re distracting. They’ll try to blow up our faith-life, working to convince us that focusing on that one big problem is exactly what we should do, while completely distracting us from seeing the big picture. Photobomb—heavy on the “bomb.”

Feelings! You’re not the boss of me!

It’s not about making a resolution to “stop feeling.” Feelings are a gift. We don’t delete them. We were created with the capacity to feel, care, love—experience emotion. Life would be dull without feelings, even the difficult ones. Finding peace is not about denying them. It’s more about being careful not to trust them to determine our actions or responses. Our feelings need to be reined in and filtered through the truth of God.

I’m trusting my Father and His truth, not feelings. No matter what’s happening, God is not uncaring or unkind. He’s not weak or passive. He’s got this—whatever the “this” is.

We deal well with our emotions when we pay attention to keeping them in check, when we don’t let them regularly push us around, when we don’t believe the lying ones, and when we don’t let any of them ransom away our peace and our trust in the Lord. Paul said in Ephesians 5:15, “Pay careful attention, then, to how you live,” then he tells us how to do that in verse 18 when he says to “be filled by the Spirit.”

Letting the Holy Spirit influence and affect our feelings brings peace. It’s the most picture-perfect kind of peace.

And speaking of picture-perfect, I’ve figured out there’s never going to be a perfect picture in those “give-up” jeans. So I’m…giving them up. 

Comments

Featured Videos

A Video Story: Mission Minded Church Plant

Discover how Jesus is calling, providing, and sending His Church today. A new church plant, Antioch Church, saw the need to be missionally minded and take the gospel to Liberia.

Find More Videos

Trending

  • Missouri Baptist camps should be free from state bureaucracy
  • MBC Prayer & Evangelism Conference to take place, April 27-28
  • Baptist denomination banned in Nicaragua as religious persecution grows, CSW reports
  • Supreme Court ruling removes gag on Colorado Christian counselor, raises questions about Kansas City-area restrictions
  • Why do we, as Southern Baptists, cooperate?
  • Ventriloquism opens doors to ministry for associate pastor at Faith Baptist Church, Festus

Ethics

Supreme Court ruling removes gag on Colorado Christian counselor, raises questions about Kansas City-area restrictions

Michael Whitehead

In a sweeping First Amendment decision issued March 31, the United States Supreme Court removed a virtual gag on free speech which the state of Colorado had imposed on Christian counselors when talking to minors about their sexuality. The Chiles decision has immediate implications beyond Colorado—including within the state of Missouri.

Trump admin seeks stay, dismissal of two more pro-life lawsuits against abortion pill

Diana Chandler

More Ethics Stories

Missouri

Missouri DR volunteer Toby Tucker receives Distinguished Service Award

Tharran Gaines

Anyone who knows MODR volunteer Toby Tucker already knows that the Distinguished Service Award he received from Southern Baptist Disaster Relief and Send Relief was well deserved. Presented in recognition of exceptional service during a disaster and based on the most recent year of responses, the Distinguished Service Award is like an All-Star award for volunteers who have gone above and beyond the call of duty during an actual response or series of responses during the most recent year. 

Copyright © 2026 · The Pathway